Posts Tagged ‘fate’

What does “Fate”, “Destiny” or “Meant to be” together’s means?

Suddenly I wondering what does “fated”, “destined” or “meant to be” together means.

when we have a relationship then break up,
we said that…

“we are not meant to be”.

Then when we are separated for along time,
and meet again in such a circumstances,
we said that…

“It’s destiny”.

And many couple feel more secure after they throw a wedding party,
such as

“Finally I found the person, my red string, love of my life, my fate”.

But today I realize, that there’s no such a thing. Because after married, it doesn’t mean you’re with the person who fated with you, no guarantee at all. We are just guessing. Hoping that the person you’re married is the right person.

1st Case :
When they divorce,
once again they said…

“We are not meant to be”,
“He’s not the person” and such as.

2nd Case :
Or another possibility is,
when one of them died…
What do the other would said?

“Oh, they’re not meant to be”, or
“This is fate”

That’s why I’m wondering now.
For case 1, yeah maybe they’re not meant to be, fate being cruel and twist the way, but
how about the 2nd Case?
Does it mean that “You have 2 red string on your pinky?“, the forsaken should live on, right?

I realize that the important thing is not the person, but “Time” and “Feeling”.
Time sometimes long as you want to fast forwarded it, but sometimes it’s quick as a blink of eyes that you want to slow it or even backwards it.
Once I ever heard this phrase:

“You never realize something is very important to you until it’s gone”

And all that remains are the memories, created by time when you spend your day with the person. That’s why as long as your time is ticking, it would be great if you precious all things around you. We never know that time will twist us just with a blink of eyes.

Story of a friend of mine.

She having a relationship for 5 years, and married with a man, 5 years relationship we can call it destiny, because they even separated for around one year, and fate reunite them, finally they’re married. If it’s a drama, maybe the story will ended here.

Now they are a 1 year happily married couple without kid, have just buying a new house, and Monday May 16th 2011, they’re doing renovation for their new home. On Tuesday May 17th 2011 4 AM, while sleeping, the husband got a heart attack, and minor stroke, he was screaming painfully and being taken to the hospital by his wife. Even Doctor didn’t say any positive things to encourage my friend (his wife). And the next day, Wednesday May 18th 2011 around 9 AM I got the news that he died on hospital.
I can’t imagine how sad she is now.
All of sudden, just a blink of eyes. From a happily married couple into a widow.

As a friend, I don’t know what to say, when I come to her hubby funeral, I really can’t do anything, what should I say to make her feel better?
I always have this kind of thought, that encourage word sometimes makes her more sad. Such as “be strong“, “don’t cry God has settle this“, and another blah blah. It will make her cries more, because of being pitiful.
But some of them said that that encourage word is really encourage the forsaken people, I just can hug her and said “be strong, you can overcome this“, and when I hug her, I can feel it, she was shaken and cry harder…

My dear friend lost her hubby, all I can do only hug her, and say “be strong”,
I can’t even rub her tears, because I think, she better crying out loud.
I can’t even tell her to eat, because I know she don’t have appetite,
So I just standing there, watching her crying, silently…

God must be bored, that’s why God twist her life like this. Just with a blink of eyes, God turn her from a 1 year happily married couple into a widow. Everybody said “maybe this is the better way“, where I can’t find any better from this situation.

Tonight too, she probably can’t sleep at all.
Maybe the memories that remains keep replay in her head, the precious memories …

I hope she can overcome this and be strong, because life must move on. Especially for the forsaken people.

Time can heal the wounds even it left some scars.

I can say such a phrase now.
I don’t even know if I can do as what I said just know, when the circumstances lead me to this kind of situation.
That’s why I write this down, maybe someday if I lose my mind, I can read this and get my mind back. Afraid that I will be weak, so when I’m weaken “Oh, I ever write this wise post” lol.

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He is The Guy Who Can Took My Breath Away Just by Passing in Front of Me…

It’s been a very long time…
Suddenly I got string,
a string to be connected to him. (String of Fate? Lol)
I feel very happy, I even get my heart a spring, like every flower in my heart blooming (sorry if it sounds to be exaggerated lol)
The point is I’m so happy at that time!

The Story Starts Here…
Friday, April 1st 2011
I get in touch with my friends Lily, who is working on the same floor with him!
We have a long chat, it’s been 5 years ago (when I’m working on the same floor with her) I don’t know why, but suddenly we are talking about him, she said that while I’m gone (long time ago, maybe few years ago), he suddenly appear in front of Lily and ask her :
“You’re Rinrin’s friends, right?
Do you know where is she?
Do you have her contact?”
But unfortunately she doesn’t have my contact, so she answer that she don’t know and don’t have my contact, then he silent and go (ㅠ.ㅠ)

He even ask about me, does it means something???
But when we meet after I came back (about 1 year 3 months), we had a cross meet, but he didn’t ask me my contact…
Is it because he already had girlfriend at that time? (I had so much thought in my head, I keep wondering… When it’s -maybe- doesn’t mean anything).

Then I ask her to get his blackberry pin, so I can get in touch with him too, I even ask her if he’s married or having a girlfriend, and she said he’s still single (kyaaa~ *screaming*). Then I’m getting very excited.
My old friends, Lily, gave him my blackberry pin.

Then the next morning there’s a BBM notification, but strangely when I open my blackberry messenger, there’s no message even a invitation request! I thought it’s a bug, so I let it be. Lily send me message that he already send me a invitation request on blackberry messenger and ask her why I didn’t accept his request, Lily said that I’m the one who had the strongest desire to have his pin(it’s true! Lmao) but yet didn’t approve his request… It’s not like I don’t want to approve, but I didn’t get the invitation!!
Oh my God!! Why why why???
Why I didn’t get his request!!!! :((

I thought it’s a fate,
to be meet with him on a computer centre, after I come back from my long journey to other island for more than a year.
I thought it’s a fate,
that Gods wants me to meet him, that he’s the Guy!
I thought it’s a fate,
That suddenly can got a string to be keep in touch with him.
But then suddenly I thought it’s not,
Wondering why his request didn’t appear on my blackberry messenger, I already ask my friend with so much effort for him to invite me…
Does it means that we’re not meant each other?… ( Again, exaggerated!! xD~)

Saturday, April 2rd 2011
I’m visiting my bro’s house, meet up with my sister in law and my little niece “Audrey”, she’s cute as always!
I’m having a chat with my sister in law, and don’t know why too, suddenly I’m talking about him *lmao~~~*
Then my sister in law said, “Why don’t you search him on facebook? Its good for looking up someone who loose contact with you.”
I think I ever search it on facebook (pretty long time ago), it’s about 515 peoples who had the same name as him. So I don’t do it.

Tuesday, April 5th 2011
Today, I was browsing on my PC, then I try to search him on facebook, and you know what!? He’s on the first name!! (I had a mutual friend of him, that’s why his face is the first name!!! Kyaaaa xD~). I invite him on facebook, and send him a message, asking for his blackberry pin.
And shockingly, he answer my facebook message! (Again and again, happy over a very little thing… *slap my self* 정신 차려!!

Here’s the message:
Here’s my pin 255XXXXX
I got your pin from Lily, I already send you a request but you didn’t approve me, please approve my invitation”

Aw aw aw… I’m soooo happy
I was like giggling ear to ear!!! xD
He remember my name!
He ask me to approve his invitation!!
My heart is blooming~♡♡
Ohhh, I think there’s no other happiness except this at that time! (Lol again exaggerated~~~)

If you ask me the question on my previous post about “Two Kind of Love”,
This one is 「The Heartbeat Love」
Even a little thing can make me happy this much, I can’t imagine more than this, like having a lunch/dinner with him, or imagine he smiles to me, I think I will faint right away!! (>_<)

That night, we did chat on blackberry messenger. He ask me to meet up and have a chat with him, I’m sooo happyy!! (I even screenshot the conversation! Haha I’m on the state to be crazily over a little thing)

I hope this happiness everlasting forever…
And don’t disappear too quickly like bubbles…

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