He’s Just Not That Into You

The Rules – Are all guys always like this?

Have you ever watch “He’s Just Not That Into You?

It’s an 2009 American Romantic Comedy Film  (starring Ginnifer Goodwin and Justin Long), based on a bestseller book by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo. I really likes this movie, one of my favourite.

Well, according the movie/book, there are some rules, like what Alex told Gigi :

the rule is this:

If a guy doesn’t call you,
he doesn’t wanna call you.

If a guy is treating you like he doesn’t give a shit…
…he genuinely doesn’t give a shit.

If a guy gives you his phone number
instead of taking yours, he’s not interested.

And also,
if a guy wants to see you,
believe me, he will see you.

If a guy wants to date you,
he will make it happen, okay? He will ask you out.

Actually, I think It’s true, but it’s really the opposite of me, I’m a person who wouldn’t call or even start a chat with the person who I liked, so if I’m start a chat or call a guy, it means I’m not attracted to him at all, why? Because I’m someone who wants to be approached first muaahhahaha…
but this is a bad habit, why?

Because Guys are stupid, they’re terrible at taking hints.

So even you give a thousand hints that you like him, he would probably don’t know that. Instead of giving a thousand hints, maybe it’s better if you tell him right away.

And after questioning some guys, there are some guys who like to approach a woman they likes and there are some of them who like to be approach first (I personally hate this kind of guy lol), but if you like this kind of guy, then you should gather all your strength to approach him!

But all Alex said are true, I also questioning some of my male friends and yeah It’s true, If a guy likes you, they will make it true, even a small reason just to meet you, so I think we need to note that on our mind.

Alex also said :

Why do women do this?
Build up this stuff in their minds…
…take each little thing a guy does,
and then twist it into something else?

Okay, this one is delusional, according to wikipedia then it means a belief that is either mistaken or not substantiated and is held with very strong feelings or opinions and expressed forcefully.

Sometimes, It’s true, some woman did what Alex said, built up some stuff in their mind and twist into something (lol),This is also not good, okay for all woman please stop built up something in mind, he’s just not that into you.

Even so, I think this one is not 100% the woman’s fault, as a Man, they shouldn’t make the woman confused too… I’m not really sure bout this, because it’s depend on each other personality too.

Well as a Woman, I think I know why woman built stuff in their mind,

For example :

The Guy is being too kind to her, or doing so much stuff for her,

Maybe,

The Man is really approach her at the beginning

why? because as what the book said about the rules, even a phone number he wouldn’t give you, even a call! How come a guy who  are not taking your call, willing to do this and that?  without any feelings? (Maybe he’s someone who is a very good boy), then I think it’s a bullshit.

Maybe they try to approach at first, but suddenly feels,

“Oh we are no match“

so the guy stopped to approach her, and making an excuse by saying that’s the woman’s delusion, built up stuff on their mind, isn’t it? (LoL, did I sounds like a guy hater?), Since even a married couple can submit a divorce paper, how can a guy who just on a state “Approaching a woman” cannot change their mind? It’s pretty normal.

So the point is, if you are guy and had no feeling for the woman, please don’t be too nice, because you are just make her having a delusion, that’s a bad thing to do. And since you are the one who makes woman got delusion, then you should take the responsibility. How? Just make it clear by tell her the truth…

It’s different in the movie, who -in the end- Alex really did fall for Gigi and having a beautiful exception. 😉

Gigi : I’m the exception.
Alex : You are my exception.

Is this only happen on a drama?

I hope not…

I wish I can get that kind of exception too.

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Friendship!

I found this phrase somewhere :

It’s not important to have many friends.
What is important is to have real ones.

Makes me wonder…
What is “Friendship”, to make friends? Maybe.
For the rest of my life, maybe I never find the real friendship. I’ve been trying many ways, with full heart, love my friend and try to be there always.
But in this world, to be loved back, it’s magic.
Sometimes even we treat them very well, we loved them very much, doesn’t means they loved us as well as we loved them, right?

Mono friendship

Friendship with same gender, if they in the same line, there will be a competition. Friendship, sometimes only good things to be said but sometimes That’s not true.

Do you know this phrase?
“You best friend is your best rival.”
This is not happen only to me, but many people too.

I remember this when I watch SBS currently Airing Drama “Lie To Me“, there are “My Best Friend is My Best Rival” kind of Friendship there, between Ah Jung and So Ran. That kind of Friendship is True! And it’s really happen in real life.

Story of Mine
I have one best friend, maybe not really best, but the closed one. And she was my best rival too. It’s happen when we still in high school, she always see me as her rival maybe. At first I didn’t realize it. She always told me that she didn’t study when it comes to an exam,”what? Study? Oh come on?” which makes me relieves, because “oh, there’s another person who doesn’t study”, and I low my guard (this is part of myself too, I’m quite lazy lol), when she told me to not study, I’m not study. And then on the exam day, she ignored to cheat with me, I was like a fool, she pretend as she didn’t hear me, and when the exam results are up, she got the jackpot, and I’m down to hell.

At that time I realize…
I’m not her best friend, but her best rival.
It’s not happen only for the grades, even…
Boyfriend like how good your bf, how great my bf,
Online games like what level are you,
Fashion like this dress those shoes,
Things like having this kind of gadget and those PC,
Jewellaries like having this rings necklace earrings, and so on.
I know this is childishness but She always see me as her rival, till the point I’m sick and I throw a distance. I’m tired… I’m looking for a friend… Not a rival.

But even as a rival too, friends are friends, we have spend many good times together too, shared about what we thought, same hobby, talking heart to heart. Friendship normally is a fine thing. As if a light, there will be a shadow.

The positive and negative for having a best friend as rival:
1. The positive one is, you had a goal. Makes you want to do more, and makes you to be hard worker, because you really wants to beat up your rival.
2. The negative one is, you never feel enough because you keep comparing yourself to another. Well… Life is never enough.

Hybrid Friendship

Friendship with different gender, there are possibility to have a delusion. Maybe some of you ever experience it, hybrid friendship, a guy and a girl friendship. At first, maybe it’s really started with a pure friendship, but as time goes by, it doesn’t mean anything wouldn’t grow, you perfectly know what I mean right? It’s Love!

It doesn’t mean there’s no perfect friendship in relation between guy and girl. It’s possible! But there are other probability too. Delusion I means here is the situation where someone got a wrong feeling, maybe the guy being care over a pure 100% friendship, where the girl, got a delusion that she’s being loved by the guy. That’s why sometimes, you don’t need to be too nice with someone lol. Sorry if I’m taking an example with a “girl” since “woman” is the one who always get delusion, sometimes happen to “man” also.

Okay, back to topic.

A Best Friend isn’t something forever.
For Example:
She might be your Best Friend when you’re in elementary school, but now, she’s only acquaintance.
He might be your Best Friend when you’re in High School, but now, he’s only acquaintance.

Something I got from this is, not only electronic need to be maintain, but friendship too. If you didn’t maintain your Friendship, maybe you will be an acquaintance in the future!
Having 100 friends now, doesn’t mean you will have 100 friends in the next 10 years.

How to maintain your friendship?

1. A Call or Chat
Keep in touch! That’s it! This is not something you only do with your lover. A call /chat is needed in Friendship and Family too. To keep the bond become stronger.

2. Hang Out
Yeah, hang out with friends! This is not only to keep the bond to be stronger, but also you can have fun, so you’re not stressed out. Like going to a concert with friends, having BBQ time, eye shopping together, or just having an evening tea.

I hope you have a nice friendship! And don’t forget to maintain it ;D

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Delusion? – LoL it’s OK! I won’t get any delusion!

March 3rd, 2011

I don’t want to get any delusion.
It’s been along time since the last time I got affection from a guy (I can’t even say that it was an affection lol).

It’s happened when I was going to lunch, I even bring my 도시락, but he asked me to lunch out with him, because he had meeting around my workplace, so we ended up eat lunch together.

He’s the 3rd guy that say I’m better with my new short haircut, and the first person who said I’m cute with my new short haircut. I’m not gonna lie, I’m happy getting praised lol. But its a common feeling I think, no more or less.

And then, when we lunch, he put some vegetables on my plate. After 2 years since I broke up with my ex, he’s the first person who put food on my plate (sometimes it means cares).

I got a strange feeling, but I’m not going to any delusion. I took it as he is a guy who have just broke up with his gf, feeling really down, and as his friend, I did gave him some advices, try to cheer him up, and that’s only his appreciation for my friendly welcome.

Watching him eating 2 plate food…
friends, I’m happy seeing you like this, since I know when you’re very down, even for eating you seems don’t have any appetite, even for smile you seems don’t have any energy, your world’s seems collapsed in front of your eyes.
But now, you’re getting better, It’s good. Keep it up!

그사람들를 남자 아니야, 그냥 친구, 이상한 상상 안됀다! 그 사람은 사랑해주 도 안됀다 , 맞다! 그냥 친구다! 정신 차려!

I wouldn’t get any delusion, because…
Sometimes, in this world,
Things doesn’t always work as we want it, Doesn’t always work as we imagine it.
When we find the right answer,
Then, its not Illusion nor Delusion.
That’s the Fact, standing there, Proudly…

*Delusion : [Definition]
A false belief that are firmly held
Something that is falsely or delusively believed or propagated
A fixed false belief that is resistant to reason or confrontation with actual fact.

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