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What does “Fate”, “Destiny” or “Meant to be” together’s means?

Suddenly I wondering what does “fated”, “destined” or “meant to be” together means.

Sometimes,
when we have a relationship then break up,
we said that…

“we are not meant to be”.

Then when we are separated for along time,
and meet again in such a circumstances,
we said that…

“It’s destiny”.

And many couple feel more secure after they throw a wedding party,
such as

“Finally I found the person, my red string, love of my life, my fate”.

But today I realize, that there’s no such a thing. Because after married, it doesn’t mean you’re with the person who fated with you, no guarantee at all. We are just guessing. Hoping that the person you’re married is the right person.

1st Case :
When they divorce,
once again they said…

“We are not meant to be”,
“He’s not the person” and such as.

2nd Case :
Or another possibility is,
when one of them died…
What do the other would said?

“Oh, they’re not meant to be”, or
“This is fate”

That’s why I’m wondering now.
For case 1, yeah maybe they’re not meant to be, fate being cruel and twist the way, but
how about the 2nd Case?
Does it mean that “You have 2 red string on your pinky?“, the forsaken should live on, right?

I realize that the important thing is not the person, but “Time” and “Feeling”.
Time sometimes long as you want to fast forwarded it, but sometimes it’s quick as a blink of eyes that you want to slow it or even backwards it.
Once I ever heard this phrase:

“You never realize something is very important to you until it’s gone”

And all that remains are the memories, created by time when you spend your day with the person. That’s why as long as your time is ticking, it would be great if you precious all things around you. We never know that time will twist us just with a blink of eyes.

Story of a friend of mine.

She having a relationship for 5 years, and married with a man, 5 years relationship we can call it destiny, because they even separated for around one year, and fate reunite them, finally they’re married. If it’s a drama, maybe the story will ended here.

Now they are a 1 year happily married couple without kid, have just buying a new house, and Monday May 16th 2011, they’re doing renovation for their new home. On Tuesday May 17th 2011 4 AM, while sleeping, the husband got a heart attack, and minor stroke, he was screaming painfully and being taken to the hospital by his wife. Even Doctor didn’t say any positive things to encourage my friend (his wife). And the next day, Wednesday May 18th 2011 around 9 AM I got the news that he died on hospital.
I can’t imagine how sad she is now.
All of sudden, just a blink of eyes. From a happily married couple into a widow.

As a friend, I don’t know what to say, when I come to her hubby funeral, I really can’t do anything, what should I say to make her feel better?
I always have this kind of thought, that encourage word sometimes makes her more sad. Such as “be strong“, “don’t cry God has settle this“, and another blah blah. It will make her cries more, because of being pitiful.
But some of them said that that encourage word is really encourage the forsaken people, I just can hug her and said “be strong, you can overcome this“, and when I hug her, I can feel it, she was shaken and cry harder…

My dear friend lost her hubby, all I can do only hug her, and say “be strong”,
I can’t even rub her tears, because I think, she better crying out loud.
I can’t even tell her to eat, because I know she don’t have appetite,
So I just standing there, watching her crying, silently…

God must be bored, that’s why God twist her life like this. Just with a blink of eyes, God turn her from a 1 year happily married couple into a widow. Everybody said “maybe this is the better way“, where I can’t find any better from this situation.

Tonight too, she probably can’t sleep at all.
Maybe the memories that remains keep replay in her head, the precious memories …

I hope she can overcome this and be strong, because life must move on. Especially for the forsaken people.

Time can heal the wounds even it left some scars.

I can say such a phrase now.
I don’t even know if I can do as what I said just know, when the circumstances lead me to this kind of situation.
That’s why I write this down, maybe someday if I lose my mind, I can read this and get my mind back. Afraid that I will be weak, so when I’m weaken “Oh, I ever write this wise post” lol.

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